The old has past, The new has come

All of us have made mistakes in our life. Looking back, sometimes you just wish that these mistakes weren't made. If only we could forsee the future, then we wouldn't have chosen the paths we chose back then. For example, if only we knew who Mr Right was, then we wouldn't have gone for silly crushes and accept wrong relationships that could have perhaps allowed us to avoid the hurt back then. Jo mentioned to my DG before that God will definitely forgive our sins, but we still have got to bear our consequences. For a person who had pre-marital sex before, sure, it was a sin committed. But if you confess wholeheartedly, God will forgive you, but the consequence is that it will be straining on your future marriage and might be a barrier. We have to bear the consequences. Hence, we should never take God's forgiveness for granted. Be on the alert always, and weigh the choices you make, each and every step of the way.

But, that being said, what can we do also, when wrong choices have already been made? We may have fallen for the wrong person, we may have been more liberal back then thinking hugging an opposite sex isn't wrong or going after idols is a cool affair etc. Change is never constant. And perhaps we regret the position we were in back then, wishing this and that didn't happen so that it wouldn't affect our present spouse/gf/bf/friend. But, I guess all these little mistakes, the bits and pieces of our past, are lessons that shaped into who we are today. In order to love a person wholeheartedly, we truly have to accept the past, present and future, and love the person for who he or she really is. And that's why discovering and revealing the past is important.

Since we can't reverse time, we can only move forward with a positive attitude and focus on the new rather than the old; for life moves on. And having said that, it is precisely why i feel it's important to know the past, for even though it makes no difference to life as it is now, it was a significant part of who we were and how we have grown. And only have we truly accepted the past, can we then be ready to move on to the present, and never looking back again. Sometimes, it is important to have the complete picture in mind so that we can focus on eternity that is to come.